What to watch for and do:

While the following behaviors may indicate an alcohol or drug problem, some also reflect normal reactions to stress.  Experts believe that a substance use problem is more likely if you notice several of these signs at the same time, if they occur suddenly and if some of them are extreme in nature.

• Mood changes: flare-ups of temper, irritability and defensiveness.

• School or work problems:  poor attendance, low grades or performance, and/or recent disciplinary action.

• Rebellion:  against family, school, work, or societal rules and expectations.

• A 'nothing matters' attitude:  sloppy appearance, lack of involvement in former interests, and general low energy.

• Possession of alcohol or drugs: in their room, locker, car or personal belongings.  Also, smelling strange odors on their breath or clothing.

• Physical or mental problems:  memory lapses, poor concentration, bloodshot eyes, lack of coordination or slurred speech.

If someone has a problem with alcohol or other drugs...

WHAT NOT TO DO:

• Do not argue with the person when they are impaired or high.  

• Do not attempt to punish, threaten, bribe or preach.

• Do not try to be a martyr.  Avoid emotional appeals that may only increase feelings of guilt and the compulsion to drink, use other drugs, or abuse medications.

• Do not take over their responsibilities, leaving them with no sense of importance or dignity.

• Do not hide or dump bottles, throw out drugs, or shelter them from situations where alcohol is present.

• Do not try to drink along with the problem drinker or take drugs with the drug abuser.

• Above all, don't feel guilty or responsible for another's behavior.

WHAT TO DO:

• Discuss the situation with someone you trust - someone from the clergy, a social worker, a counselor, a friend, or some individual who is in recovery from alcohol or other drug abuse.

• Try to remain calm, unemotional, and factually honest in speaking about their behavior and its day-to-day consequences.

• Explain the nature of alcoholism and other drug/medication addiction as an illness to the children in the family.

• Encourage new interests and participate in leisure time activities that the person enjoys.

• Be patient and live one day at a time.  Alcoholism and other drug addiction generally takes a long time to develop, and recovery does not occur overnight.  Try to accept setbacks and relapses with calmness and understanding.

• Refuse to ride with anyone who's been drinking heavily or using other drugs.

• Let the person with the problem know that you are learning about their problem and/or attending Al-Anon, Nar-Anon, Alateen, and other support groups.

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